What is it about us that makes accepting a compliment so uneasy? Or sometimes, just downright difficult?! Is it an Irish thing? Is it an age thing? When someone says to us ‘You look great’ we immediately deflect the attention by brushing it off and saying ‘I got this in a sale for half nothing’ or ‘you must need new glasses’ or ‘no, I really do look awful’! We do it all the time! Why?
When someone gives us a compliment we must accept it! It is a gift. If someone gave us say, a box of chocolates, we don’t belittle the gesture, we would accept. Happily and graciously. Part of my work as an image consultant involves assessing and advising my clients and their great attributes. Can you believe it? They are sometimes so busy focusing and dwelling on their ‘negative attributes, that it can often be hard for them to even acknowledge themselves in a positive way. It can be really challenging sometimes for someone to accept a genuine compliment. It can even be emotional. Imagine what it would be like to get more compliments. I’m not suggesting for one moment that you need to depend on others for compliments, because, at the end of the day, it’s about how you feel about yourself. But, I know from working with clients over the years that they do like to receive increased compliments. But they also know within themselves that they are looking better. And so, they feel a lot better about themselves. They ‘pay’ themselves more compliments. They know how to dress for their lifestyle, their bodyshape and colouring. They know what works and what doesn’t. They know what flatters them best. So, accept a compliment. It’s a gift. Practice saying ‘thank you’! It’s very simple and very effective. Everyone loves to hear those simple words ‘you look fantastic’! It focuses the mind on positivity rather than perhaps being a bit judgemental. Give a compliment – it never goes out of fashion.
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